Just don't get it...

I just don't get why people bash things that they don't understand or know anything about. I belong to a few different forums and things like that, and I've posted about my lifestyle on them. For the most part people will either be cool with it, or they'll say not my bag, but so long as you're all happy and it's working then go for it. Except for a handful. That is what this post is about.

There have been a few people that simply state that there's no way this will work. No way can three people have a happy and healthy relationship. Also, the only reason I'm in the lifestyle is so that I can "have my cake and eat it too". Really people? Do you have any facts or are you just basing it on your personal opinion?

My wife and I didn't start our relationship with intentions on being Poly or even bringing anyone else in for the occasional romp around the bedroom. It started the same way your traditional relationship started. Two people getting to know each other and realizing that they had lots in common and enjoyed being together. That's right, we were a "normal" couple just like you and your friends. What went wrong Dan??

NOTHING!! My wife and I just decided to go down a different road that's all. My wife was Bi-curious and was interested in being with a woman. She also wanted to see what it would be like to watch me with another woman. Yeah, I thought I was being set-up but she assured me that I wasn't. LOL That's right folks, that's how this all started. MY WIFE!!! :) I say this because I'm sure people think that this was all my doing. I wasn't complaining about it, but it actually wasn't my idea. :)

We started out with having 3somes. Here's what kills me though. Some of the same people that have had 3somes in their relationships condemn my lifestyle. Why?? You mean it's bad to actually fall in love with a partner that you bring in for sex? It's bad to care for that person and want to spend time with them as well as your wife/husband? Worse yet, it's bad that all three of you get along and actually enjoy hanging out with them? I know my lifestyle isn't for everyone, but I really don't see where having two people fall in love with you is bad. More people to love and more people to love you. I'm not sure but I always thought the saying was, the more the merrier. Not sure.

Please don't misunderstand. I'm not saying that my lifestyle is the right choice. Never once have I tried to convert anyone over to being Poly. To each their own. But that's just it, we have to remember that very saying. Just because you don't agree with it, doesn't mean that it's bad or wrong. It's just not the right choice for you. That's all. Also, if you have a question please ask. Most people are going to be happy to explain things if you approach them in a respectful manner. If you don't agree and have no questions, then say nothing at all. Mom was right. If you have nothing nice to say, then don't say anything at all.