I feel bad for guys that have to hide what they want. I was watching TV, and a commercial came on for the show Hitched or Ditched. It's about a couple that has a meddling mother in law. So much so that the point of the show is to see if the couple can survive. What??
Here's my problem with that. Dude, why are you even questioning? I mean I understand that everyone has different relationships with their parents, but to the point that you would give up a woman that you loved just because your mother didn't approve of her? How is that possible? Are you that attached to your mother that you feel the need to make yourself unhappy just to please her? I'm sorry for you if you do.
Now, I'm also a fan of big girls. Some may know, some may not. The reason I bring this up is because if I were one of those guys that cared about what other people had to say I wouldn't have the wonderful women in my life. I can't even imagine what life would be like without them. I'm lucky that I realized that what other people have to say really means nothing. I heard this once and it's stuck with me ever since. Those that mind, don't matter. Those that matter, don't mind. Think about that one folks.
Be you regardless of what anyone else has to say. You are who you are and should love yourself no matter what. Remember, if you don't love yourself, how the hell can you love anyone else?
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
You don't say??
So as some of you may know, I'm a member of a poly board out there and I read something the other day that kinda got me. Apparently, it's thought that a quad relationship (two couples) is easier to maintain than a triad (the two girls and I). I was floored by that. I guess that just didn't make sense to me.
What was said is that there's more flexibility in a quad than in a triad. I guess I'm not sure what that means in relationship to the...relationship. Of course, I only have experience with a triad so that's really all I can speak about.
So many people don't understand how our relationship works. How it's possible to love more than one person. How can you share? That's a question I get often. See, that's just it. It's not about sharing. There's really nothing that we share outside of food, household things, and bud (hehe), but aside from that we share no more than a traditional couple.
We all enjoy spending time together, not apart. We don't need that alone time that some people feel they need in a relationship. Hell, there are times when we think we're odd because we don't want that alone time. Now, we do all get some time alone with each other individually. Now with summer hours, I get some days with wife D, days that wife M stays home we get time together, and days when I'm out and about the girls get their time together. Those times aren't often, but we do enjoy them when we can get them. The majority of the time, the two people that are together are talking about the third, and usually wishing they were around. LOL That is our life.
I know it's bizarre to some people out there, but three (or more) people can all love each other as if it were one big happy family. We all love each other, worry about each other, care about each other, and watch out for each other. I've said it before and I'll say it again, how can it be bad when you have that many special people in your life?
What was said is that there's more flexibility in a quad than in a triad. I guess I'm not sure what that means in relationship to the...relationship. Of course, I only have experience with a triad so that's really all I can speak about.
So many people don't understand how our relationship works. How it's possible to love more than one person. How can you share? That's a question I get often. See, that's just it. It's not about sharing. There's really nothing that we share outside of food, household things, and bud (hehe), but aside from that we share no more than a traditional couple.
We all enjoy spending time together, not apart. We don't need that alone time that some people feel they need in a relationship. Hell, there are times when we think we're odd because we don't want that alone time. Now, we do all get some time alone with each other individually. Now with summer hours, I get some days with wife D, days that wife M stays home we get time together, and days when I'm out and about the girls get their time together. Those times aren't often, but we do enjoy them when we can get them. The majority of the time, the two people that are together are talking about the third, and usually wishing they were around. LOL That is our life.
I know it's bizarre to some people out there, but three (or more) people can all love each other as if it were one big happy family. We all love each other, worry about each other, care about each other, and watch out for each other. I've said it before and I'll say it again, how can it be bad when you have that many special people in your life?
Just...
I've started two other blogs before I actually got this one going. just various things, that as I was writing them I thought, nah, I don't want to blog about that. I got nothing today folks.
I did get a good response to yesterdays blog though. Maybe that's what you guys want. The more intimate side of the poly life. It would stand to reason though. When you're driving and there's an accident, you always slow down and look. It's just how us humans are hard wired. We're all morbid in some fashion.
Guess you guys wanna hear about when we all have sex. DIRTY PERVS!! It's alright, we're all pretty much the same way. MWAHAHAHAHA Anyway, that's all she wrote for now. I'll keep you posted on any new developments.
I did get a good response to yesterdays blog though. Maybe that's what you guys want. The more intimate side of the poly life. It would stand to reason though. When you're driving and there's an accident, you always slow down and look. It's just how us humans are hard wired. We're all morbid in some fashion.
Guess you guys wanna hear about when we all have sex. DIRTY PERVS!! It's alright, we're all pretty much the same way. MWAHAHAHAHA Anyway, that's all she wrote for now. I'll keep you posted on any new developments.
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