I know it's been a while since I've posted, but...such is life. Actually, the sun has been out so I've been feeling better. Until today. I'm not sure what today was about, but I wasn't myself. I mean, I even went out for a while today. Went for a walk through a state park that we have here, as well as went and sat by the beach just to get some fresh air. Even with all of that, I was still down in the dumps.
I'm not sure if it started this morning when I got up, or what. All I know is that I couldn't really shake it all day. Even took my happy pills today. Of course that's something that I thought about. I'm not used to taking meds, but at the advice of a few loved ones I've decided to take my happy pills on a more regular basis. I will admit that it does take the edge off, but after today I wonder if maybe the meds have something to do with my mood. Who knows. I'll talk to the Dr. again tomorrow.
Speaking of the Dr. That's one of my concerns. Which could also be part of my angst. Don't like visiting doctors much. I've seen more doctors these last two months than I have in the 11 years that my wife and I have been together. There are a few other reasons that I won't go into, but those that are close to me know about.
Let's hope that tomorrow brings a fresh start and a better day. I'm gonna try to just have a good day no matter what. Not let anything get to me. Regardless of what it is. People say not to worry about things that are out of your control. I know that, but it's so much harder to actually do. I've got to learn to shut my brain off and just relax. Anyone know how??
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
F*ing Allergies
I love the Spring and Summer months I really do. But damnit I hate allergies. I've been sneezing all freaking morning and this is only the beginning. Zyrtec, HERE I COME!!
Thursday, April 23, 2009
Spring is in the air
Went out today and damn it was nice out. A bit on the chilly side, but it was a gorgeous, clear day. I'm all about spring and summer. I do enjoy the season changes that happen throughout the year. but I really could do without the likes of winter, and unfortunately fall, because it leads to winter. :)
Monday, April 20, 2009
Happy 4/20
For some that know, today is the holy of all holy days for potheads throughout the world. This is something that seems to be more and more prevalent as of late. Well, maybe it just seems that way to me, but I'm hearing of more and more people who partake either regularly, or from time to time. People that I would have never thought would even have that stuff in their house much less than smoke it! What is this world coming to? ;-)
Do we legalize it? Do we keep it as part of the notorious underworld? Here's the thing. People do it. I can't even begin to tell you how many people I know that smoke on a regular or semi-regular basis. These are people that I would never thought would have the stuff in their house much less smoke it. Is it really that big a deal? Depends on who you ask.
Some people will tell you that it's a gateway drug. That there's no way that you can not start doing hard drugs if you smoke marijuana. Some will tell you that it causes people to quit their jobs and become low lives. They basically think that if you start smoking pot you're doomed to a life of misery and drug addiction.
Now there are others that will tell you that it's a completely natural substance. It comes from Mother Earth how can it be bad. There are people who simply do it to relax. Kind of like some people have a drink after a tough day at the office.
Who's right? Is there a right answer? Should it be legal and we let adults decide if that's a route they want to go down. Kind of like the person that decides to walk into that bar and have a drink. Do you think they sit at that bar and think, I'm going to become a raging alcoholic in a few years! I'm pretty sure most don't. Or do we keep it as is. People having to try and find a safe, reliable connection and ending up dealing with things that they had no business dealing with. Does the government legalize it, tax it and try to make some money off of it?
Who knows?? I sure don't, but I'm curious to find out what happens. If anything at all that is.
Do we legalize it? Do we keep it as part of the notorious underworld? Here's the thing. People do it. I can't even begin to tell you how many people I know that smoke on a regular or semi-regular basis. These are people that I would never thought would have the stuff in their house much less smoke it. Is it really that big a deal? Depends on who you ask.
Some people will tell you that it's a gateway drug. That there's no way that you can not start doing hard drugs if you smoke marijuana. Some will tell you that it causes people to quit their jobs and become low lives. They basically think that if you start smoking pot you're doomed to a life of misery and drug addiction.
Now there are others that will tell you that it's a completely natural substance. It comes from Mother Earth how can it be bad. There are people who simply do it to relax. Kind of like some people have a drink after a tough day at the office.
Who's right? Is there a right answer? Should it be legal and we let adults decide if that's a route they want to go down. Kind of like the person that decides to walk into that bar and have a drink. Do you think they sit at that bar and think, I'm going to become a raging alcoholic in a few years! I'm pretty sure most don't. Or do we keep it as is. People having to try and find a safe, reliable connection and ending up dealing with things that they had no business dealing with. Does the government legalize it, tax it and try to make some money off of it?
Who knows?? I sure don't, but I'm curious to find out what happens. If anything at all that is.
Healthy Relationships
What makes for a healthy relationship? It's a question that's been asked all over the world for years. Is there a definite answer? I'm not sure. Let's discuss.
There are lots of words that come to mind when you think of a healthy relationship. Love, trust, communication etc... Is there one specific thing that makes a relationship healthy? Is it a combination of things? My wife and I have been together for some time now and all in all I think we have a great marriage. Some would disagree seeing as we have a gf, but that's part of what makes us work. That's right, us. Every relationship is going to be unique. Which means that different things are going to work for different people.
In our particular situation trust is one of the most important factors. We all trust each other with our lives. Without trust there would be no way that we could live this lifestyle. Could you imagine having to always wonder what two women are doing?? I can't, because I've never had to. From the start my relationship with my wife was founded on trust. I've never had to worry about it and never will. That's one stressful part of a relationship that's taken care of.
Another big one for us is communication. Now, that's a tough one. Communication is one that after 11 years of being together we still struggle with from time to time. Same thing with our gf. What I think we do well is that we try to do our best to talk when things are on our minds. We know that we may not always like what we're going to hear, but if it's important enough for one person to bring it up, then it's got to be something that we shut up and listen to. Doesn't mean that we're always going to agree on things and yes that can lead to an argument, but as I've said in a previous post, I think arguing is OK in a relationship. Within reason of course. This doesn't mean that we go to each other about everything, but we know better than to hold something in. That makes for an unhealthy relationship. And that is a fact!
There's no secret formula for what makes a relationship successful or not. I think it takes a lot of work, energy, and effort from all parties to make it work. Our pastor said it best. A marriage isn't 50/50. It's 100/100. It takes 100% from everyone to make it work. I don't think we try anymore. I think it's become too easy to divorce someone and start fresh. It's not going to be roses all the time, but if you plant something can you just leave it and hope that it blooms? No, you have to tend to it, nurture it. In other words, you have to work if you want to have a beautiful garden.
There are lots of words that come to mind when you think of a healthy relationship. Love, trust, communication etc... Is there one specific thing that makes a relationship healthy? Is it a combination of things? My wife and I have been together for some time now and all in all I think we have a great marriage. Some would disagree seeing as we have a gf, but that's part of what makes us work. That's right, us. Every relationship is going to be unique. Which means that different things are going to work for different people.
In our particular situation trust is one of the most important factors. We all trust each other with our lives. Without trust there would be no way that we could live this lifestyle. Could you imagine having to always wonder what two women are doing?? I can't, because I've never had to. From the start my relationship with my wife was founded on trust. I've never had to worry about it and never will. That's one stressful part of a relationship that's taken care of.
Another big one for us is communication. Now, that's a tough one. Communication is one that after 11 years of being together we still struggle with from time to time. Same thing with our gf. What I think we do well is that we try to do our best to talk when things are on our minds. We know that we may not always like what we're going to hear, but if it's important enough for one person to bring it up, then it's got to be something that we shut up and listen to. Doesn't mean that we're always going to agree on things and yes that can lead to an argument, but as I've said in a previous post, I think arguing is OK in a relationship. Within reason of course. This doesn't mean that we go to each other about everything, but we know better than to hold something in. That makes for an unhealthy relationship. And that is a fact!
There's no secret formula for what makes a relationship successful or not. I think it takes a lot of work, energy, and effort from all parties to make it work. Our pastor said it best. A marriage isn't 50/50. It's 100/100. It takes 100% from everyone to make it work. I don't think we try anymore. I think it's become too easy to divorce someone and start fresh. It's not going to be roses all the time, but if you plant something can you just leave it and hope that it blooms? No, you have to tend to it, nurture it. In other words, you have to work if you want to have a beautiful garden.
Anniversary
My wife and I have been toghether for 11 years. Yesterday we celebrated 6 years of being very happily married. No, really we are happy!
Sure we have our ups and downs, but what relationship doesn't? I heard once that it was healthy to fight. I agree! Now, don't get me wrong. We're not having knock down, drag em out fights, but every so often we have a big blow out the releases all of the pressure that builds up throughout the year. They usually are about every 6-8 months. Seems to be doing wonders for our marriage. Maybe something to think about??
As you know we live a poly lifestyle. That means that we have a live in gf. So what did she do yesterday while my wife and I celebrated our anniversary? She joined in! My wife and I have decided that on April 19th, 2013 we're going to have a commitment ceremony with our gf. That way she's included in our special day. We wanted to make her feel like she was a part of our relationship, which she is.
I hope to spend many many more years with both of the girls. I'm one of the happiest if not THE happiest man on the planet.
Sure we have our ups and downs, but what relationship doesn't? I heard once that it was healthy to fight. I agree! Now, don't get me wrong. We're not having knock down, drag em out fights, but every so often we have a big blow out the releases all of the pressure that builds up throughout the year. They usually are about every 6-8 months. Seems to be doing wonders for our marriage. Maybe something to think about??
As you know we live a poly lifestyle. That means that we have a live in gf. So what did she do yesterday while my wife and I celebrated our anniversary? She joined in! My wife and I have decided that on April 19th, 2013 we're going to have a commitment ceremony with our gf. That way she's included in our special day. We wanted to make her feel like she was a part of our relationship, which she is.
I hope to spend many many more years with both of the girls. I'm one of the happiest if not THE happiest man on the planet.
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Blah
That's me. That's been me for the last couple of days. I can't seem to shake it. I'm not sure if it's because the girls are back to work and I'm left home alone, or what. All I know is that I have no desire to do anything at all. I used to get up and start my day off. Dishes, laundry, cleaning up the house, going to the store if need be.
I'm sitting on the couch this morning with a list of things to do, and no motivation to do a damned thing. I'm watching tv, posting this blog all the while thinking of all the things that need to be done. I'm sure once I get started it'll just start to flow and things'll get done. But it's getting that initial kick. Normally I just force the issue. Not today. Or yesterday. Maybe tomorrow?? I sure hope so.
Guess that's it for now.
I'm sitting on the couch this morning with a list of things to do, and no motivation to do a damned thing. I'm watching tv, posting this blog all the while thinking of all the things that need to be done. I'm sure once I get started it'll just start to flow and things'll get done. But it's getting that initial kick. Normally I just force the issue. Not today. Or yesterday. Maybe tomorrow?? I sure hope so.
Guess that's it for now.
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